moderate mediator meditation

On the 4th day of a 5 day meeting that you are leading ... try this.

As meeting leaders, we often endeavor to get everyone to participate. We try exercises that encourage group thinking and communication. Alas, there always is one person, regardless of group size, whose gums don't flutter. One person who doesn't speak up or out. The silent one.

Until this post, the "silent ones" deflated me. I felt that their non-expression stymied the group mind. Maybe not.

It's possible that they have the golden ticket. When you have the golden ticket, you have confidence. Enough confidence to not talk.

On the 4th day, have lunch with the silent person. Just you and them. Look for a booth, in the back corner, that's poorly lit.

I expect the experience will be a surprise. I am gonna try this.

It's possible that the silent person will show you the golden ticket. Or, you may find out that they are just reserved. Either way, you'll have relaxing lunch before you return to wrap up the meeting.

The holder of the golden ticket has been listening. They might have insight on how to get into Wonka's Chocolate factory.